The Ellis Institute was founded early in 2017. It is an expression of how I'm standing out, now. You see up until then, I had been in private practice for 10 years, serving my clients, and largely being invisible. I was trying to 'fit in', get it right, follow other peoples ideas for building a business, and not being very happy.
I wasn't meant to fit in or do it other peoples way.
There is very good reason why I was trying to fit in. It stems from three significant events in my life. I was given up for adoption at birth, which isn't a problem until one of my siblings told me I don't belong and I'll be sent 'back' if I don't behave. You see he was a jokester and thought it was funny. Something he could lord over me. Not so funny for me. Then I experienced 10 years of sexual abuse by the time I was 15, and I lost 11 close friends or family by the time I was 22. Lots of trauma, abuse, anger, and identity struggles. I was trying so hard to manage all these internal conflicts and find a way to 'belong.' Until I decided that I could no longer live like this. I was exhausted, frustrated, angry from all my efforts and frustrated that my results weren't what I expected.
I made a decision to do whatever it takes to create a life that I am truly happy with, on my terms. I've spent 25 years figuring that out. My biggest lesson is that I cannot live my life from the outside in. I had to adjust my gaze to the inside first. Love myself unconditionally. Embrace all my diversity. What diversity? Certified Goldsmith, weaver, knitter, woodworking, avid motorcyclist, I can fix almost anything, painter, designing this website myself, podcast, youtube channel, online coaching community, head coach for a colleagues community, bestselling author, etc, etc. I'm incredibly capable.
It became clear, quickly, that what I've learned, and how I embrace all of my gifts was tremendously valuable to others. I set a stake in the sand and declared that I am ready to show others that there is nothing they have said, done or experienced that has tarnished their magnificence. The only way to live into that magnificence is to embrace all that we are. The pain, the pleasure, the beauty, the uncertainty. My programs have been designed to bring people back to the real truth of who they are, their diving truth versus what they have experienced, or believe.
I deeply care and have so much compassion for this journey. I'm passionate about other people's success. I'm gifted at unlocking the heart so that clients can unconditionally love themselves.
I love my life. I truly love what I do, I'm thrilled that I get to share this with you.
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